Our Family Building Journey

We are Zerbo Diakaridja, 38 years old, and Sawadogo Bibata, 39 years old. We met each other in 1999, when we both were students at The Teacher’s Training College at Burkina Faso, West Africa. We fell in love and decided to put our lives together.

At the end of 1999, Bibata took her first pregnancy test, because her period was late. We were worried, because we were not yet married, and we wanted to have kids only after getting married. The result of that test was negative as fortunate as. We could not know that it was the beginning of our infertility problem. Since then, Bibata has exaperienced frequent late periods.

We got married in 2000 and have been rushing to have our first child, but to no avail. We did not understand the gravity of the problem until we arrived in the United States in 2007.

We have changed physicians four times between 2000 and 2007, since none of them has proven capable of producing positive results. In 2004 Bibata began to have no period all, without the aid of medication. We began to consider moving to Europe to pursue medical treatment, but that option proved too costly.  After all of those years trying to fix the problem, no physician has been able to tell us the real cause of our infertility. So many tests have been performed, and so much money has been spent!

We also considered traveling to the United States for medical treatment. In 2000, we heard about the visa lottery that is organized by the US government annually. After entering several times, we were blessed in 2006 to win. Our first priority upon arriving in the United States was to find a solution for our problem. I came to United States in July of 2007, and Bibata came in September of 2007. The only person we knew was our host, a friend coming from the Ivory Cost. Things were not easy. There were many challenges. We had to learn English and try to find good paying employment. It was difficult to find a job because of the language barrier, let alone a job that paid well and had good benefits. As of now, I work as grounds keeper, and Bibata works as a house keeper. We both are paid ten dollars hourly, and we have limited insurance that does not cover the infertility treatment.

Bibata’s first visit to Dr Spencer, our current physician in USA, was in September 2008. After many questions and a check up, Dr Spencer suspected an early menopause. This suspicion was later confirmed by the results of the medical exam Dr Spencer performed for us. According to the tests’ results, Bibata has only a 1% chance of natural conception, and she has to have an egg donor for any VIF treatment. These conditions raise the cost of VIF from $ 17,000 to $ 25,926 at Emory Hospital, and the Emory Reproductive Center requires a deposit of $ 21,367 which is the cost of the egg retrieval and embryo transfer in an IVF cycle. There is no way for us to find this money. In despair, we started to lose hope until we discovered from inciid the heart website. This discovery brought new hope to us, and we have decided to take our chances on receiving help.

This is the situation in which we live. We are desperate for help. Bibata and I love each other, and we have been trying to build our family since 2000. Bibata is now reaching her 40‘s and it’s more and more difficult for me to keep her calm. She cannot stop blaming herself, and sometimes I am afraid that something bad will happen. We are far from our home land, and our plight is frightful.

 

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