I grew up in Hollywood, and it was a unique experience being raised in the midst of glamour and wealth while struggling with poverty. My mother instilled in me the belief that determination could help me achieve anything. At the tender age of ten, I realized that my ticket to a better future lay in pursuing a college education and building a successful career. I was determined to become the first person in my family to graduate from college, and I learned that with unwavering determination, no obstacle could be insurmountable. For the most part, that has proven true.

I pursued my dreams relentlessly and proudly earned both a bachelor’s and master’s degree from a well-known California University.  I dedicated more than a decade of fulfilling years teaching music to children, a journey I embarked on against the odds. You wouldn’t have bet on success for a child from my background, and I’m certain I wouldn’t have had the chance to pursue my dreams without the invaluable mentorship and guidance of some incredible teachers. This is why I am passionate about teaching – to mentor and inspire children. However, the relationship I desire most and the child I long to mentor is one of my own.

As I’ve always believed, there is no obstacle too great to conquer through sheer willpower. Yet, I never fathomed that I would face the challenge of early menopause in my thirties. Nothing could have prepared me for the heart-wrenching realization that I may not be able to have children.

At the age of thirty-four, my gynecologist suspected that I was experiencing Premature Ovarian Failure due to my wildly fluctuating hormone levels. He recommended attempting pregnancy. My husband and I eagerly started trying, but our hopes were soon dashed as I began suffering from hot flashes and debilitating migraines just a few months later. The doctor confirmed my worst fears, suggesting hormone replacement therapy for Premature Ovarian Failure. In shock and disbelief, we entered a state of denial, and I resorted to birth control pills to regulate my hormones. We kept ourselves busy, clinging to the belief that I could somehow fix this.

Unfortunately, each time I discontinued hormone replacement in hopes of conceiving naturally, the hot flashes and severe migraines returned. Following numerous tests and disappointing ultrasounds, where it was believed I might have ovulated at different times, I finally accepted the diagnosis of my reproductive endocrinologist. I was indeed facing Premature Ovarian Failure.

Treatment, IVF and a donor are our hope. We diligently saved money for this endeavor, though the costs involved seem daunting and nearly out of reach. Our insurance provider, like so many others does not cover any infertility treatments for those with P.O.F.

This entire journey has been incredibly disheartening, and there have been moments when giving up on our dream of parenthood felt tempting. However, I firmly believe that to give up would mean abandoning a lifelong yearning to bring my beautiful baby into this world – something I’ve never done before.

I’ve dedicated my entire career to working with children, and my husband, has his early childhood certification and experience teaching preschool. We were more than prepared for parenthood.

Any guidance and support your organization can provide would be an immense blessing to us. We passionately hope to turn our dreams of parenthood and family into a reality.

Update from Mom

Pardon me telling you by e-mail, but every time I finally get a minute to call you, I realize it’s too late your time. At long last, our son is here  We still can’t believe that we are so fortunate as to have this beautiful boy!  He would not be here without your help and we are so grateful!  It is beyond any words that I have to express…So thank you God Bless you! Please tell us how we can help INCIID.

With all sincerity and gratitude,